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Ten things to NOT do on YOUR Wedding day

Wedding day don’ts


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Your Wedding day is the most important day of your life.  You will look back on this day with hopefully the biggest smile on your face knowing that it was perfect. In order to be perfect you need to plan far in advance.  Start pinning your ideas on Pinterest and getting all of your colors and themes set so you can lay down a major Wedding day plan.

Here is list of Ten things that you should NOT do on your Wedding day, in no particular order.


1)  Do NOT let someone else run your Wedding day unless they are following instructions layed out by you.  Wedding Planners are awesome, BUT, make sure you are on the same page with your Planner and they are not just doing what they want on your day.


2) Have a Wedding Planner, Wedding Coordinator, or day of Coordinator that has a schedule and keeps the events rolling on time.  The Professional vendors should stick to a timeline but don’t expect them to always do this.


3) Do NOT buy a Wedding dress simply for the price.  Pick one that fits your body and flatters your form.  Everyone’s shape is a bit different so make sure to pick a dress that is you.


4) Do NOT forget to eat and drink water on your Wedding day.  You might be nervous but it will really stink if you pass out or faint or just feel like junk your entire day because you didn’t eat or drink water.  This also means sit down at your reception and eat a solid meal.  You don’t want to do drive thru food after your Wedding is over when you have a fantastic meal prepared for you.


5) Do NOT leave your family and guests too long.  Your Wedding day is not a photo shoot.  If your photographer thinks so then maybe you need a different photographer.  Your day should be a celebration of marriage with family and friends.  You can also don your dress on a later date and do another shoot.  So enjoy your day and be with all the people who love you.


6) Do NOT book a vendor simply off of a referral from a friend.  Even though they might be “cheap” or “the best” they might not be right for you.  Do your homework and interview everyone.


7) Do NOT wear high heels all day long.  You will be miserable and your face will show it.  Bring some flats or sandals that make your feet, and face, smile.:-)


8) Do NOT plan your events on the Wedding day too close together.  Set ample time for hair and makeup, travel, pictures, etc.  You can always burn time but you will never make time.


9) Do NOT sweat the small things.  The day will happen and when you stress your body shows stress through your face which shows in your Wedding album.  Have fun and enjoy every second of your Wedding day.  You will look back on the ridiculous happenings that were not even a blimp on the radar and smile.


10) Do NOT skip the events at your Wedding Reception, i.e. First dance, cake cute, father daughter, mother son, etc.  Even if you have a deceased parent dance with a brother, sister, or uncle.  Your family and friends will enjoy it and the pictures will tell a story of the fun you had on your Wedding day.


This is a small list of Do NOTs that I suggest for your Wedding day.  If you take these suggestions to heart your day will be that much smoother.


Paul Retherford Wedding Photography has captured over 500 Weddings all over the Midwest, and the World.  Paul commissions no more than 30 Weddings a year now and prides himself in his customer service and top of the line products.  Brides and Grooms Rave about Paul Retherford Wedding Photography for his style and personality.  If you are in need of a Wedding Photographer, consider Paul Retherford Wedding Photography.

Asta La Vizsla tribute video celebrating our pet dogs life of nine years

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Asta La Vizsla passed this Saturday in my arms after a three month fight with Cancer.  It was a sad day.  We are blessed to have had her for nine years.  We have so many memories with this girl.  Our oldest said, “We love you and we will miss you.”

Here is the video that I put together celebrating Asta’s life.





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Planning a Northern Michigan Wedding advice from a Wedding Professional

Advice from a Wedding Professional in Northern Michigan

Are you planning a destination or local Wedding in Northern Michigan?

First and foremost, hire Professional Wedding vendors that you feel will work with you to make your Wedding day the perfect experience.  Use your instincts.  Be sure to check independent reviews online.

My 14 years in business have demonstrated that Professional Wedding vendors who own their own businesses are your best bet for your Wedding day.  Make sure you know who will be working your Wedding, and that the person you hire is the business owner.

Start a Pinterest board right now and pin your findings to that board.  You can create boards for all individual aspects of your Wedding or just create one board with all of your ideas.

Wedding themes help create a focus for your day and can create a sort of tunnel vision so that planning will be less overwhelming.

If you have made the decision to get Married in the beautiful venues of Northern Michigan, keep this advise from Paul Retherford Wedding Photography in mind.


Wedding Planning ~

First and foremost, are you going to research your venues, vendors, and details, or are you going to hire someone to bring your Wedding together for you.  This can be partial planning or full Wedding planning where you just show up for your big day.

Keep in mind that Wedding Planners narrow your choices down for you to a select group of vendors that might not be perfect for your Wedding day.

There are lots of quality Wedding Planners in Northern Michigan that would be happy to work with you on your vision for your Northern Michigan Wedding.

I work with planners on a weekly basis and I can attest that Weddings do flow easy with someone on your side.

If you decide to plan the day yourself please allow enough time to bring everything together.  Having a Wedding day coordinator is a huge bonus to help relieve the stress when all the planning comes together.  Have lots of help bringing your vision together and enjoy your Wedding day.

Wedding Planners are typically a wealth of information.  They can steer you towards your vision.  There are a lot of small details that should not be overlooked.


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Wedding Venues ~

Narrow your Wedding day location search to locations that fit your style, comfort, personality, and dream.

Online research will give you lots of answers BUT there is a lot more available than what Google tells you.  Keep in mind that vendors pay a lot of money to reach the top of search engines and they are not always the fit for you.

Call Visitor Bureaus and local Chamber of Commerce.  Keep in mind that their list is not inclusive either.  People are, most of the time, paying to be on their lists.

Look at what other people have done for Weddings.

Vendor lists sometimes help and sometimes just show you who the owners “like.”

If you are interested in beach Weddings you can sometimes get permits from the city to have your Wedding right on the public beach.

Ask yourself if you want indoor or outdoor venues and how many people you will have attend.  Larger Weddings, over 200, will limit the venues available.

Visit the venues and imagine yourself in the location on the biggest day of your life.  Will this location be the perfect match?

Don’t just go off of someone else’s referral.


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Wedding Photography~

Once you have your Wedding Venue booked look at Photographers, if you haven’t booked already.

Photographers book quickly and to get your preferred Wedding Photographer you need to secure your pick as early as you can.  I have Brides book two years in advance and sometimes even before they secure venues.

When you find the Photographer that fits your needs, meet with them in person or on the phone or computer, and if they are right book them.  Then you can start thinking about Engagement Photography and how this photographer can document your entire story.  Winter Engagement Photography creates a nice contrast to Summer Weddings and vice versa.

Referrals are nice here too BUT be sure that the Wedding Photographer meshes with your personality.  Remember, if you have any ill feelings towards your Photographer it will show in your Wedding day images.


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Wedding Dress, Tuxedo, Shoes~

Selecting the Wedding dress can be a long process.

I would suggest looking at Pinterest to find styles that you like before going to the bridal shop.

You can see my Pinterest boards at Paul Retherford Wedding Photography on Pinterest.  Be sure to see my Wedding gown and dresses board.  I have boards for all types of Wedding Planning.

Wedding dress hunting is one area of the Wedding Planning that you should reserve a good amount of time to find that perfect fit for you.



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Hair and Makeup~

Wedding hair and makeup is about how you feel and look on your Wedding day.  Keep this in mind when you scout salons to do your Wedding day hair.  It is a good idea to do trial run(s) to ensure that your destination stylist is in line with your look.

Northern Michigan has incredible talent in this area and I find that there are lots of choices that are as good as if not better than large cities.

You can also bring your own stylist with you to do your hair and your bridesmaids.   A small percentage of my Brides feel more comfortable with their stylist and pay for them to travel with them.  This will ensure comfort in knowing what the final product will be.

With that said, I have lived in a lot of large cities and the salons in Northern Michigan will suit everyone except maybe the most particular people.

Don’t forget the groom too when it comes to beauty on the Wedding day.  A salon appointment can make the groom feel at the top of his game too.


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Wedding Flowers, Boutinerres, and Arrangements~

This is one of the areas of the Wedding that can play a huge role in the overall theme and feeling of the Wedding day.

There are so many ways to decorate your venue and the price points are all different too.

Northern Michigan Wedding florists and floral designers can help bring your ideas and dreams to fruition.

A great place to start is Pinterest, and also combing blogs with your theme.

You can get almost any flower in the World delivered right to Northern Michigan for your Wedding day.


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Wedding Catering and Bartending~

Catering sometimes coincides with the Reception venue.

There are a large number of mobile caterers in Northern Michigan that will prepare your perfect meal.

Do a food tasting and make sure you know exactly what will be served on your Wedding day.

Don’t forget your cocktail hour, horderves, and bartending too.


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Wedding Entertainment~


The Wedding Entertainment will set the stage for your Wedding reception.  You can decide what you want that stage to be on your Wedding day.

It could be a band, dj, strings, or your own music on an ipad.

Professional Wedding Entertainment vendors will adhere to a timeline and keep the evening moving along so that your guests will not have a chance to get bored and leave.

Ask if you can come to an event that your Entertainer is playing prior to booking.


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Wedding Dessert~


Desserts can be everything from cupcake tables, gorgeous Wedding cakes, candy tables, pies, ice cream bars, and lots more.

The Wedding cake is the obvious choice but not always the best choice for each Bride.

Some locations charge a substantial cutting fee that might be avoided if you don’t have a cake.

Northern Michigan has wonderful bakers that make awesome cakes!  Trust me, I know, because I sample all of them.  I am a cake connoisseur.  You want to know my favorites bakers, just ask.:-)


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Wedding Transportation~


Don’t forget to book your Wedding day transportation quickly.  There is a limited amount of companies in Northern Michigan so be sure to book the company that will work best with your Wedding needs.

We have everything from limousines, buses, trolleys, shuttles, hot rods, boats, and more.


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Wedding Night~


The end of the evening you should plan on resting in a comfortable room after all of the craziness.  Splurging on a room that you can wind down and enjoy your Wedding night together should be a big priority too.

Waking up and reminiscing about the wonderful Wedding day with all of the Professional vendors who made it all come together is the best feeling in the World.



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Other Wedding details~


Wedding favors, Groom gift, Bride gift, Officiant, Flowergirl, Ringbearer, Honeymoon, Pets involved?, Pre Wedding spa day, Bridesmaid picking, Groomsmen picking, Bridesmaid dress, Wedding Colors, etc.


Post Wedding Photography~


A popular option to capture the beauty of Northern Michigan is to plan a post Wedding photography session.  During this session you can go to locations that you were not able to like the beach, water, woods, downtowns, etc.  You can even make this a little more aggressive and do a trash the dress session.


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Consider Paul Retherford Wedding Photography for your Northern Michigan Wedding Photographer

Petoskey, Michigan Winter Engagement Photography ~ downtown, lake, forest

Winter Engagement Northern Michigan Petoskey

Melanie and Jason braved the cold sub zero temperatures and traveled to Petoskey, Northern Michigan all the way from Chicago this past weekend.  They had meetings with their future Wedding vendors on Friday and we spent a short time together on Saturday photographing their Engagement Photography.

Melanie had La Dolce Vita salon do her makeup.

We walked around downtown Petoskey and photographed using the beautiful architecture, snow, and winter scene.  It was a beautiful day!

The temperature reached almost 30 degrees for us.  It was a beautiful Winter day.

We photographed in downtown Petoskey, along Lake Michigan, and the Winter Sports Park.

What a beautiful couple!  I am looking forward to their Stafford’s Perry Hotel Wedding this Summer.

Here is a small selection of images from the Engagement Photography Session in Petoskey, Michigan.  If you would like to see all of the images from the Engagement Photography session visit Petoskey Michigan Engagement Photography by Paul Retherford


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If you are interested in a Northern Michigan Engagement Photography Session feel free to call Paul Retherford Photography, LLC at 231.445.1793

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Mackinac Island Wedding Photography

Magical Mackinac Island Weddings

Mackinac Island in Northern Michigan is a destination Wedding location with a large selection of venues for your Wedding day.  Choose from indoor and outdoor locations around the island for your Wedding Ceremony and Wedding Reception.

These Mackinac Island inspiration boards will help you choose your dream Wedding day.


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